This upcoming weekend I celebrate 20 years of globe trotting, parenting, laughing, crying, learning and living life with the man pictured above. How can it be that we have been together for 1/2 our lives?
We have been through a lot together. How couldn't we? We started dating when we were 20 years old and thought that Milwaukee's Best (beast) tasted really good.
When people ask me the secret to our relationship, I share that is all about respect. We are each other's biggest cheerleaders; always wanting the other person to find their personal happiness in life.
The secret that I haven't shared with everyone about what makes our relationship work is this: Rob is a saint.
Do you find it to be true that the ones that you love the most are the ones that you dump on the most? All of the ugly, all of the blah, all of the shit...we hand it to them. This has been true in our relationship and Rob patiently handles it all.
When I have a bad day...he hears all about it. When I am feeling uninspired...he gets my pouty. When I frustrated...he takes in my poor communication.
As I do my soul work, I am working on daily honoring our relationship. When I am in a tough spot, I seek silence and find my own peace instead of unleashing and expecting him to hold it all. After 20 years, I am still working on being the best partner and communicator that I can be.
Why is all this important? Shouldn't we be able to trust our partners to just take us as we are?
For me, the gift of my partner is not one that I ever want to take for granted. Each day that I am blessed to have him by my side, I want to fill with as much love & understanding as I can. And a little beer too...just some Stone this time.
Cheers to 20 more my love!
How can you be a better partner, friend, daughter/son, etc. to the person that you love?