I feel like everyone that I have chatted with lately has been feeling the same...tired.
In perfect timing, I learned the term FFT's from Brene Brown's "Unlocking Us" podcast.
What is a FFT?
A fucking first time.
And this year has brought an onslaught of them for all of us.
Global pandemic √
Working from home √
With kids √
Holidays without family + friends √
Uncertainty about what is next √
Lack of connection √
Homeschooling your little people √
Learning new technology...overnight √
Discovering our privilege and the utter lack of equality and justice in the world √
Pivoting and pivoting and pivoting √
Insert your list here... √
No wonder we are tired.
We may think and hope that things will return to "normal." Yet is that what we truly want?
Disruption is common. Change is inevitable. Growth is uncomfortable.
How can we support ourselves to be right here in the middle of all the important learning, change and reflection that needs to happen? How can make peace with this fatigue, these FFT's?
1.) Reset expectations. I have been practicing releasing the notion that I can somehow operate the same way I did a year ago, a month ago, a day ago. With each FFT that I face, I give myself permission to create a plan on how I would normally react and then I sweetly pick it apart with a huge dose of reality about what I am capable of right now.
2.) Tiptoe outside your comfort zone. My fatigue sets in when I choose to make huge leaps into the FFT's. Instead, I am sitting at the perimeters of my knowing and comfort and slowly stretching into the unknown. I am measuring my growth by thoughtful and consistent effort vs. how big I can leap.
3.) Rest. This season actually beckons us to slow down. The more we push, fight, resist and try to rationalize FFT's, the more tiring the work is. When you are tired...rest. When you are overwhelmed...be self-compassionate and when you don't understand...give grace.
For me, it feels good to have given a name to what I have been feeling. Now that I know, I feel more equipped to support myself as I encounter future FFT's.
Join me + Bailey Smith on Saturday January 30th from 8-10am MST for our "New Year, New Intentions" workshop. This 2-hour experience is dedicated to reflecting on values, prioritizing growth and creating your own FFT's. This virtual workshop will include:
A movement practice to stimulate your creativity.
Reflection questions to support in unlocking your year ahead.
Community connection for you voice your intentions and create accountability.
Time to create your vision board to capture your commitments.
Meditation to guide you to your most heartfelt intentions.
Register before Jan 1st for $10 off. Use code 2020 at checkout.