Soft

I’m finishing a few solo days in LA—my favorite time of year for a little getaway. The holidays have passed, the noise has softened, and the new year stretched wide in front of me.

It takes me a solid month or two to feel steady in my new year planning.

This is work I do across my two businesses, my personal life, and my relationships. I’ve learned that clarity doesn’t arrive on command—it needs space.

Setting intentions for the year ahead requires excavation.

It means sorting through what rises up from the past behavior, the pull of shoulds, the desire to know, to be right, to have it figured out.

Instead, I return to a patient self-study practice—a quiet conversation with the heart.

What do I long for?

What feels possible if I trusted myself more?

Where does joy direct me?

What is the purposeful path forward?

Over the past month, I’ve returned to my journal again and again—dumping, dissecting, interpreting, slowly getting more clear.

In addition to alignment with my values, the foundation of 2026 has come down to one essential question:

How do I want to feel?

Each time I quietly pose that question, new words arrive.

Free.

Light.

Fluid.

Supported.

Connection.

Joy.

Peace.

Ease.

Fuck it.

These words didn’t arrive all at once.

They surfaced through intentional contemplation—time spent journaling, moving my body, and being immersed in nature.

With each word, I’ve allowed myself time to listen. To understand its message. To feel into what it’s asking of me.

And then, on this final morning of my time away, during a beautiful movement practice, what felt like the truest answer arrived.

Not loudly.

Not urgently.

Just honestly.

Soft.

This is how I want to feel this year.

So now I sit with the question: What does soft mean for me?

It will be the voice of presence over pressure.

It will look like staying open and vulnerable when things feel hard—in the world, in my relationships, in my work.

It will mean holding life lightly instead of defaulting to my tendency to make things heavy, serious, layered with meaning.

It is leaning into connection and love when I try to do it all alone.

It will remind to fully live into my gifts without forcing or proving.

Soft will be a compass when I stray - when decisions feel noisy, when I’m tempted to rush.

If you’re still feeling unclear, you are not behind.

Clarity doesn’t always arrive in bold declarations.

Sometimes it comes through listening, through movement, through giving yourself permission to not know quite yet.

Maybe your work right now isn’t to decide—but to feel.

To notice what brings ease.

To trust what keeps returning.

Let the year meet you there.