All or Nothing

I see it every week in my coaching conversations — incredible humans who want change, who want more meaning or alignment or possibility in their lives… but the moment they look at the bigness of what they desire, they freeze.

Often, they can see the end result so clearly.

They can imagine the new job, the healthier rhythm, the more connected relationship, the bolder version of themselves.

But the vision feels too big. Too far away. Too insurmountable.

So nothing happens.

The dream stays on the wish list.

This is the trap of all or nothing.

We tell ourselves that if we can’t do the whole thing, if we can’t do it perfectly, or if we can’t see the entire path… then we shouldn’t do anything at all.

But real change doesn’t come from massive leaps.

It comes from small, doable, courageous steps — the ones that feel almost too simple to matter.

You want a new job?

All or nothing says: I must quit today.

Small steps say:

I volunteer in a new field.

I set up a coffee with someone who’s transitioned careers.

I reach out to a coach to talk through what I’m feeling.

Each of these steps reveals something.

Each gives you more clarity than you had before.

My daily mantra is Action cures fear.

But lately I’ve realized there’s an extension to it — a deeper truth that’s been showing up in my own life:

Action reveals the next step.

And also… Messy creates momentum.

When you choose to engage — even in the smallest way — you’re given information that wasn’t available before. Your world opens. You see new possibilities. You understand something you didn’t know when you were standing still.

Momentum is born from a single (sometimes messy) step.

And here’s the part we often forget:

Life doesn’t wait.

So when you feel that little ping of curiosity — that whisper that something needs to shift — don’t shut it down because you can’t see the whole map.

Just take one step. A bite-sized action. Something that moves you closer to the life you’re creating.

You don’t need to have it all figured out.

You just need to begin.

Journal Prompt:What’s one small step you can take today?